In Steve Siebold’s book 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class, he talks about the world class being champion communicators. Average communicators use logic to try influence people, while superior communicators appeal to emotion in order to influence people. Champion communicators also know that “the crown jewel of success with other people is knowing a critical factor in human relations—helping people fill their insatiable desire to feel important.”
So, here’s the question Dads: Do your kids feel more important or less important after they interact with you? Simple question with profound consequences.
Are your communications with your kids mainly based on logic or do you appeal to emotion when you speak?
Here’s a challenge I will do with you. For one week, keep a record of all of your interactions with one of your children. The metric is simple: Did your child feel more important of less important after interacting with you? Importance can be created through kinds words, touch, a gentle tone and direct actions. Importance killers include: sarcasm, comparing siblings, ignoring your kids and constantly critiquing their performance.
I think you will be surprised how much difference it makes when you are more conscious of your words and actions around your kids. Let's try this together and see what difference it makes.
When you try it, send me a comment with your findings, I would love to hear your story.